How To Have A Fulfilling Life Without Grief
As we get older we learn and grow, but that doesn’t mean we have to regret and feel disappointed about what we did before because we learned how to do things differently. If we didn’t go through those experiences, we might not have grown into the strong and knowledgeable people we are today. We never know how long we will live, so we must make conscious choices each day to live fully and make the most out of each experience we have.
We all know that this life is only to be lived once. In 99% cases, you’ll not be getting any second chance to fulfill your dream or complete your halfway task or to meet your love or to succeed in an interview. You should be wise enough to know that you’ve consumed your chance and there’s no way you’re going to get your life to live over again. That’s why it’s so important that you don’t miss out on opportunities along the way or fail to achieve your dreams.
A study was performed on elderly individuals a few years back. The study showed that there are many people who regret the things they didn’t have the courage to do, but only a few who had regrets about the things that they did. Taking this study into consideration, let’s assume that tomorrow is the last day of your life. Would you have any regrets regarding the things you did or did not do?
There is no definite formula for a fulfilling life and that too without regrets! At least once or twice you’d feel that if it would have been like that, then that would’ve made the difference. Everyone’s life will have ifs and thens. But the question here is how to get over it and have that sense of fulfilment throughout our lives.
Here’s a list of top 5 to-dos which you could follow to train your mindset to ensure you live life with no regrets.
1. Literally Chase Your Dream Or Let Go
Do you have a dream? Are you actively following it – or have you left it for ‘one day’? So often, we are so busy trying to live up to the expectations of others that we do not allow ourselves to follow our own dream. And so we need to accept that One Day is the one day that never comes. Pursue the longings of your heart. When we ignore them, we miss the opportunity to reach our full potential and experience that deep fulfillment that following our dreams can offer. So if you want never to have regrets then make the decision here, now, even before you finish reading this post: either say goodbye to your dream or start following it today. That way you will have consciously made the decision to follow it or abandon it. So go for it – or forever be comforted by your reasons not to, then let go. Then there will be no regrets, no looking backs.
2. Work Up Your Strengths
There are so many people out there who manage to get past their disabilities and inspire lives. Take Hellen Keller, for example. However, you’ll find plenty of people who have no disabilities whatsoever and still find all kinds of excuses not to move forward with their lives, not realising that this will only bring more pain upon them along the way. Don’t let that be you. Know that the more time you spend complaining, the more time it will take you to find a solution and get out of the mud. We lie to ourselves and say we will do them later … tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Stop fooling around, this is your life you’re playing with, it’s your future and the future of those close to you. Look within and know there is something you can do better than anyone else. Find what that something is and share it with the whole world. That’s where you will find happiness.
“You already have every characteristic necessary for success if you recognize, claim, develop and use them.” – Zig Ziglar
3. Let Loose The Past
Have you noticed that people who regret their mistakes also tend to make those same mistakes again and again? A famous quote goes like this:
‘The only thing I regret about my past is the length of it. If I had to live my life again I’d make all the same mistakes – only sooner.’
Don’t be a slave of your past and don’t keep brooding over the mistakes you did in the past. Try to understand and also make your mind to accept that it is ok to make mistakes. Every single person on this earth did made mistake, one or the other. It’s as natural as breathing in and breathing out. They are what help us grow and learn. They are what help us become different versions of ourselves.
We must understand by our heart that nothing is achieved without failure at some point along the road. Therefore if you’re only going to take the easy road and try to avoid failure then you’re setting yourself up for a life of regrets. If you do that, and actually forgive yourself, you can move forward and get on with your life.
4. Are You A Patient Of “What If” Syndrome?
“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” Steve Jobs
Before we make a decision, most of us think: What if? What if I ask that girl out and she says no? What if they laugh at me? What if I fail? What if I look stupid? What if, what if… Well, you will never know until you try and your ‘what ifs’ will also never end! Chances are, nothing terrifying will happen to you. If you ask me, there is nothing more terrifying than wasting your life, there is nothing more frightening than getting to the end of your life and realizing you wasted it, the only life that was offered to you. Have the courage to step into the unknown, to allow your mind to expand, to grow and to create new things. Don’t be afraid to try new things, don’t be afraid to make mistakes and most important, don’t be afraid to learn from these mistakes.
5. Game’s Not Over
Most important, you need to know that the game’s not over yet. You still might have that chance you missed. No matter how many mistakes you’ve made in your life, you only have to get it right once. Don’t look at what might have been – keep your eyes on the prize. No matter how hard life may seem and no matter what happens to you, don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on your dreams. Have faith in yourself.
A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.
– John Barrymore
So, this is life. It has and will have problems. Winner is that person who doesn’t pay heed to his problems and moves on. And we also must accept that all fingers are not same. A thing which someone can do easily might be a humongous task for you. So calculate your pros and cons and act wisely.